Personal Development (2) Pearson Psychologies wants what’s best for you Let’s begin this section of the website by stating the following fact: Pearson Psychologies isn’t telling you to buy the services offered, that’s your choice. Whether you decide to work with Pearson Psychologies or not, the very fact that you’ve visited this site and come this far on your journey suggests that you desire some form of improvement: of positive change in your life. This being the case now is the time to embark the next phase of your personal journey: a journey to improve things for you. In so-doing you’re committing to make positive changes – and to take that next step. Let’s see why.
Why challenge change now? Because change is inevitable and the sooner you’re in control the better
Pearson Psychologies has found that when people don’t make some sort of commitment to themselves regarding change, they’re likely not to make significant change at all. This is not to say that we have to actually change immediately, but it’s good to commit to the idea of change: to make a meaningful agreement; a specific, time-bound contract with ourselves. Think how many times you’ve known people who have regretted not taking an opportunity in their lives, only to tell you that they wish they’d done so, and now they feel it’s too late. Some people can become bitter with regret that they didn’t take opportunities to commit to change when the opportunity occurred.
Procrastination is a major defence used by the fearful; the uninspired or even those that may appear plain lazy (‘appear’ because what is perceived as laziness is most often a result of fear): it is the art of delay and it can be deadly to ambitions and hopes – it is the enemy of change. Procrastination is a subtle process, which often begins simply with putting something off for a short time, for example:
Imagine that a life changing opportunity suddenly arises; the person who fears change might have the following conversation with themselves over a period of time, starting with their initial response, which is: ‘I’ll do it in an hour’, which later becomes ‘I’ll do it later today’, which becomes ‘I’ll do it tomorrow’, which grows to become ‘I’ll catch up with it later this week’, which transforms to ‘I’ll definitely do it next week’ then: ‘I’ll make that change soon’, and later: ‘I must do it sometime’, ‘I should do it sometime’, ‘I’ll do it sometime’ then finally: ‘I’ll do it some day’. And much, much later, ‘I remember when I had the chance to do… I could have been…’ As we can see in the example above, people’s minds can transform time when enslaved by procrastination; transforming a useful, factual measurement in to a vague useless directive as fear of change talks them out of making any. In this example the chance for change was steadily weakened; it was lost the moment the word ‘soon’ was introduced into the internal dialogue. ‘Soon’ is not a measurable commitment nor is ‘some day’ and by this point it is unlikely that such a person under the control of procrastination will actually do anything regarding this prospective life-altering opportunity. If the chance to take a first step towards living our dreams is lost, then we’ve lost the potential to ‘live’ the life that we’d like to have for ourselves: for the person that we are at this particular time in our life. This condemns us to suffer more of the same of that which is making us unhappy or discontent with our lives. Why then is it that some people just don’t seem to realise how their commitment to change; to achieving their life and business goals becomes lost, ending up regretting losing their chance to enjoy the benefits of that change as soon as possible? Perhaps its fear, perhaps it’s an uncertainty of how to go about making change, only those people know.
Pearson Psychologies would like to offer you the following two exercises: The first enables you to examine yourself in relation to your responses to change. Write down your answers to the following questions on a piece of paper:
1. Think about the above example of putting off an opportunity for change. | 2. On a piece of paper reflect on whether you’ve ever put off a specific opportunity for change. | 3. What was the opportunity for change? | 4. Why did you put it off? | 5. What did you tell yourself at the time? | 6. Looking back, what might you have now if you’d taken that opportunity? | 7. What do you normally think when an opportunity for change occurs? | 8. What do you normally do? |
The second exercise that Pearson Psychologies would like to offer enables you to examine some of your potential thoughts concerning your current life situation. All of the questions below are based upon actual statements that clients have made whilst engaged with Pearson Psychologies on our various opportunities.
Think carefully, and write down which, if any of the following questions you feel Pearson Psychologies is asking you personally (i.e. which one’s you feel could describe your life): 1. Do you really want to be in the same situation tomorrow as you are today?
| | 2. Do you really want to stay in a job that doesn’t satisfy you? | | 3. Do you really want to carry on wondering how to keep the roof over your head? | | 4. Do you really want to continue to be unhappy or taken for granted in an unsatisfying relationship? | | 5. Do you really want to wonder where your next meal is coming from? | | 6. Do you really want to feel as though you always lose in everything you compete for? | | 7. Do you really want to feel like every day you exist rather than live your life? | | 8. Do you really want to feel that you’re struggling just to keep the clothes on your back? | | 9. Do you really want to continue to feel so alone in your life? | | 10. Do you really want to believe that there’s no alternative, better life to the one that’s making you miserable now? | If your answer is yes to any of the above then you’ve identified both your current needs and your desire for improvement. Now write down the question(s) that you’ve identified, give examples of what and/or who has made you feel this way and how this makes you feel emotionally, for example: • “I identify with question ‘6’ • I never get the job I want, I never passed my exams at school and I never win anything • This makes me feel depressed and like there’s no point in competing as I feel like I can predict the outcome.”
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Finally, Pearson Psychologies offers you an exercise to bring your aspirations together and focus on how they might begin to be achieved 1. Think about the issues and points for development that you’ve identified as you’ve worked your way through this site with Pearson Psychologies. 2. Based upon all of the information that the various exercises have given you make a list of them on a single piece of paper. 3. Finally write down the following short promise to yourself on the front of the same piece of paper: “The changes that I want are... and I will begin to go for it on the morning of …/…/…” Give yourself a target date to begin taking steps towards making those changes, however small; the date should be the tomorrow at the latest. 4. Place that piece of paper in a prominent place where you will see it every day. 5. Set yourself the task of reading that list once every week as this will ensure that you’ll be aware of what you want to change. This paper will become more and more powerful as you increasingly associate what’s written on the back with what’s written on the front. As this happens you’ll become more powerful and more focused: increasingly aware of opportunities for change as they arise, bringing you closer to making the changes on your sheet. 6. Every time you see the sign on the front of that piece of paper focus on thinking positively: acknowledge that you have work to do; every time you read the list on the back acknowledge what the purpose of that work is. 7. Keep a diary and briefly list any opportunities for change that occur each day and relate them to the list on your piece of paper. How did that opportunity bring you closer to your goals? Did you take it? How do you feel? Important! This piece of paper should never be viewed a list of failures; it is a list of desired potentials that you’re entitled to see written down, and to claim as your own; a list that will make you evermore aware of opportunities for fulfilment. Think of this: if you manage to make several small advances towards achieving change to just one thing on your list, you’ve already started to win – you’re making the change you want happen; you’re controlling your change; you’re changing on your terms; you’re changing! Regularly visualise regarding the list: if you achieve a small step each week, imagine where you might be in six months and how much better you’re going to feel. Remember, whatever “it” is that you desire, you deserve “it”. Pearson Psychologies believes that you deserve good things. |
You don’t have to go through this alone.
You can either contact Pearson Psychologies or another experienced, reputable, reliable, accredited organisation to gain professional support that will enable you to take steps toward fulfilling your dreams and ambitions. You can choose to move from unpleasant, stressful, depressing, dull situations by making changes that will lead you to a happier, exciting, comfortable less painful future: you can do this – and you don’t have to do it alone.
If you decide not to take this opportunity for positive change don’t give up, it’s never too late.
In spite of losing this opportunity to change there will most likely be many others so please don’t lose heart. If you don’t act now it’s a missed opportunity, but not necessarily the end of your world; it’s merely time that you’ve lost to begin on the path to achieving what you want and being who and what you want to be.
It’s said that ‘leopards don’t change their spots’ and ‘you can’t teach an old dog new tricks’ – human beings are neither leopards nor dogs. Pearson Psychologies has regular experience of dramatic, lasting change occurring in all ages, genders, cultures, etc. Whether with Pearson Psychologies or not, there will hopefully be a ‘next time’ – the clock never stops ticking but so long as you have life you’ll likely have other opportunities for great things to happen, and hopefully you’ll take them.
Taking the next step with Pearson Psychologies
In the following sections Pearson Psychologies explains the various opportunities that are on offer to you. You can find out more about each of these options by clicking on the buttons in the homepage, and then to make further enquiries, simply click on the ‘contact’ button.
The options currently available to you are:
• Psychotherapy
• Training
• Therapeutic Supervision
• Life Consultancy
• Business & Domestic Psychological Profiling
• Therapy Doctor
Should you wish for support in making positive change to your life and/or business, please have a look and find out more about what is on offer.
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